Love and marriage… go together like a horse and carriage
A friend and I were talking about marriage yesterday. She’s 27, been with her boyfriend for about 2 years, and I think he’s brought the topic up, and she’s avoided it. She’s a really really nice girl, and I quite like him too. Not THAT kind of way ok? As a person. I think he’s good for her, and good to her.
But she’s really afraid of the big M. We talked about rising divorce rates and how scary that is. I remember thinking about the same thing too. Especially since out of all the friends and family I know on Max’s side, there is only one couple that has stayed married for a long time. Most are either 1. divorced, 2. separated, 3. living together but not married.
But hey, to each his own and one shouldn’t judge. I’m just saying that it freaked me out because marriage to me is a one way street and divorce should not be an option. It just seemed to me that Max came from a different background, where marriage is not given enough emphasis.
I shared with her that I felt the same way before I got married. Scared, uncertain, apprehensive. You know you love someone at this point in time but forever is a big word. And marriage vows are really strong if you think about it. "In sickness and in health, till death do us part".
I told that if she’s aware of the soaring divorce rates, then maybe all the more that would make her work at her future marriage to keep it going. She says it’s the opposite - she’ll keep thinking about the what-ifs until it comes true.
And that got ME thinking.
How much of our life do I spend thinking about what-ifs. How much of my life am I missing out on, just because of this fear of the unknown. And strangely, this fear that my friend has shared with me, has shed some light on my current situation - to take or not to take a new portfolio, one that is rather unfamiliar to me, one that I have never tried, and give up something that I am very comfortable with but have done for 3 years.
I’ve figured that we will never know what the future holds and it’s out of our hands anyway so we sometimes we have to really seize the day and live life without worrying about the next step. I’m not saying be reckless. I’m saying give your life a chance.
And, though it is rather uncharacteristic of me, I share with you one of my favourite bible phrases. I liked it from many many years ago and then forgot totally about it until today.
"So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to the troubles each day brings."
Matthew 6:34
So yes, I will accept this new job responsibility, and take the opportunity to learn because staying in one’s comfort zone for too long can be unhealthy.
